How to Have a Self-Love Holiday by Camille Richard

#1 Self-Care
So many triggers everywhere! So your priority right now is YOURSELF.
I know you probably want to please everyone, but no need to.
If you feel like going to all the parties is too much for you, then DON’T.
Stay in, take a shower, watch movies.
You don’t have to attend every family & friends meetings, the holidays are a time to recharge and relax. Your recovery comes first.

#2 Boundaries
If your family is toxic for you and your aunt or grandma is always making comments on food or weight or diets...You’re allowed, yes I give you permission, to say “Hello, Nice to see you. Happy Holidays” and walk away. Talk with people who make you feel better and if they try anyway, you can do what I do. “Sorry but I do not like it when you talk about subjects like this, I don’t see you often so I would like it if it was positive instead. I would rather you ask me about my dreams for the new year then make comments on my body.” Simple but straight to the point. No need to talk about recovery or your eating disorder, all it does is remind them that there’s happier stuff to talk about. And if some questions make you feel uncomfortable, you can say nope and not answer them too (such as the annual “are you in a relationship yet?”)

#3 Stress-free
You might have to work during the holidays or you just finished exam season or buying gifts stresses you out...If it does, it’s okay but remember to take a break. It’s not about doing it all. You do not need to complete everything on your to-do list and to go to every event that’s on your calendar. And if you have to do something that can be challenging, take a pause once in awhile. Nothing is stopping you during or after a meal to go for a nice little walk with a dog to admire the Christmas lights or to do some crafts by the fireplace. No one will judge you for taking time for yourself, and if they do, screw them, I think they forget what life is really about.

#4 Plan
Yes you read right. You know there will be triggers so already plan out people you can reach out to, places where you can go and things you can do if you get triggered and you need extra help immediately. You can figure out ways to make the holidays easier, bring a fidget, a book or music, invite your friend as support to a party that could be difficult, avoid the malls on the busiest days, buy in small local shops or only shop online. And if you want to, nothing stops you from bringing your own food to the events if it’s easier for you. Oh another important part, budget. Money can be stressful. Don’t get broke just by trying to give gifts to others. There’s a million things that can show kindness and love that aren’t material.

If you like this post, Camille will be doing a wellness/self-love challenge in January to help you start your year right, find out the details at https://www.facebook.com/braveandhopeful/ or you can find her on Instagram at @braveandhopeful.